10 Christian Dating Tips forflirt
Effective Missionary Dating


1. If he tells your that you are hot…
Tell him God made you hot.
2. If he wants to hold your hand…
Give him a Bible.
3. If he tries to get closer…
Tell him the Holy Spirit is wooing him.
4. If he asks to pay for dinner…
Remind him that Jesus also paid a debt He did not owe!
5. If he reaches his arm around you…
Tell him that nobody will ever be as close to you as Jesus is.
(or ask him if you instead could “lay hands” on him in prayer)
6. If he tries to kiss you…
Remind him that a kiss killed your Savior.
(and you’re not ready to “speak in tongues”)
7. If he asks to come inside…
Ask him if he has asked Jesus to come inside his heart.
8. If he tells you he loves you…
Tell him that Jesus loves him.
9. If he gets angry that you won’t put out…
Clarify to him that W.W.J.D. does NOT mean “Who would Jesus Do.”
10. After you dump him…
Tell him that Jesus Christ will never leave or forsake him.

 This is from a website that encourages your “hot” teenage daughter to date missionally.


This is wrong for so many reasons. First what should your daughter do if they are not “hot”? The website claims that only “hot” girls go for the “hot” guys, so where does that leave the average looking joes?  What about your witness to the individual if he does come to know Christ through your relationship? When you dump him, what message does that convey? Dating to save could end in violent situations, rape, or premarital indiscretions. The “cons” of this type of outreach outweigh the “pros”, if there even are any. I could keep going but I think you can see the problems that would arise from this kind of evangelism.This is probably one of the worse marketing ploys(I mean evangelistic outreach) for someone to be involved with. 


Encourage your child to date only for the purpose to finding a lifelong mate. I will not express my views on dating here, but I definitely disagree with this type of “dating”  because of the clear command in 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? “


Dating to save, just might bring people in to know Jesus Christ, but how many has it helped drive away? 

About Chuck Mullis

I am the husband of Valerie and the father of Russell & Hannah. I am a self-employed contractor living in rural North Carolina as well as an ordained Southern Baptist Minister serving Living Water Baptist Church.

One response »

  1. Assentia says:

    What, no comment on the ‘dump him’ part? In my neck of the woods (Greece, where I spent my dating years), a girl spouting such lines would be summarily dumped halfway into the first date.

    What I find most disturbing is the stereotyping. It perpetuates the view that the male of the species is always on the pull. Um… no. Young men in the real world don’t do all that on the first date. If they share the young woman’s beliefs, there is no need for such a list; if they don’t, they are more likely to lose interest and nip the budding relationship around number 3.

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