Below is a short article from Charles Swindoll. To be honest this is a subject that hits close to home with me as I make some important decisions in the next few weeks. Pastor’s kids seem to live under the microscope and the return for living such a lifestyle usually results in unfavorable ways. This article came across my path and has helped me to consider other factors pertaining to my situation.
Okay, let’s be honest. How’s it going with you and the kids? Maybe that question doesn’t even apply to you. You may have already raised your brood and had them leave the nest. But I have a hunch that many of you pastors are still in the process of training and rearing . . . so—how’s it going? What word(s) would you use to describe your overall relationship with your offspring?
• Challenging • Impossible • Adventurous • Exciting • Strained • Angry • Heartbreaking • Fun • Pleasant • Threatening • Impatient • Busy
If you want to get your eyes open to the real facts, ask your kids at the supper table this evening. Ask them to describe their feelings about you and the home. But I better warn you—it may hurt! However, it could be the first step back in the right direction toward harmony and genuine love being restored under your roof. Remember, that’s an important qualification for us as pastors (1 Timothy 3:4–5).
Needless to say, having a Christian home—even a pastor’s home—is no guarantee against disharmony. The old nature can still flare up, habits can be set in concrete that lead to broken communication lines, and biblical principles can be ignored.
Face the truth, my friend. Stop right now and think about your home. Now, an evaluation is no good if all it leads to is guilt and hurt. To stop there would be like a surgeon stopping the operation immediately after making his incision. All it would leave are hurt feelings, a lot of pain, and a nasty scar.
Why not bite off a chunk of time this spring for a single purpose—to evaluate the present condition of your home and then to set in motion the necessary steps needed to strengthen the weaknesses you uncover.